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♿ Disabled Person Reads Comments Under “Lazy” Product Ads [CC]

♿ Disabled Person Reads Comments Under “Lazy” Product Ads [CC]

Hello, hello! In my previous video, I talked about how the
hatred for laziness can be interwoven with ableism; neglecting to consider accessibility
needs and often turning that hatred and anger into action that denies accessibility
to those who need it. If you haven’t watched it yet, I hope you’ll
check it out because today I am going to be reacting to comments beneath the ads for products
that have been deemed “lazy” and “unnecessary” and sharing with you just how and who these products benefit as an accessibility tool. Warning for ableism and fat antagonism ahead. Bed desks “Keep the bedroom for sleeping and sex. The only activities going on in that Sacred
Space should be positions. Sleeping, Etc :-(“ “Wow this is absolutely terrible, this thing
is practically promoting people to never leave their rooms / house like I have no idea why
anyone would ever want this… honestly this is something for people who weigh literally
more than 800 pounds” First off this comment is a great example
of how ableism and fat antagonism consistently weave into themselves. Cut that out. Some people cannot often leave their “rooms/house”
and more specifically their bed due to chronic illness and other disabilities; including chronic
fatigue, chronic pain, dysautonomia and beyond. Desks over one’s bed make work accessible,
crafts, dining… I personally have a portable bed desk as well as
one that rolls over my bed and I keep that one against the wall for days when I’m able to
sit in my chair for longer than I need to be laying down. Foldimate “It’s too slow I’d be done with three loads
of folding baskets by the time one is done with that machine” “…she could have folded the next item
in the amount of time it took your noisy machine to fold it… …If I have to stand there waiting for a
machine to fold my laundry I rather just do it myself for free” Some people cannot fold their own laundry
for free they have to pay for that. Lots of things that abled people do for free,
disabled people have to pay extra for. A walk around your block is free, right? Not for me, um, I had to save up and pay thousands of dollars for my wheelchair for the privilege of getting around my block. And when you think about it, due to job inequality
and sometimes inability to work, disabled people are among the most low income communities
to THEN have to pay extra for the things that abled people can do for free. Does that sound fair? I don’t think so. But that’s the way it is. Anyway right… Um, folding clothes, may not be possible or
it is extenuating for people with limited mobility, fragility of skin, joints, or muscles,
chronic pain, chronic fatigue, etc. Snuggie “Tries to blanket properly, accidentally detonates…”
[Gets tongue tied] Wait, hold on… I read that wrong. “Tries to detonate”… wait, what? [Laughs] “Tries to blanket properly accidentally detonates Thermo nuclear weapon. There has to be an easier way” “Tired of using blankets like this asshole? Do they somehow destroy your heating bill?
Are mundane tasks like answering the phone now impossibly difficult?” [Laughs in disbelief] The design of Snuggies enable people to easily
take their apparel on and offmwithout having to lift themselves from their seating or reclining
position. So this goes for people who are ill in bed, people who are wheelchair users, also they are just comfy! Why are y’all are no fun? Sock slider “People are lazy enough and now we are
making them even more lazy!” “Wow must be so difficult to bend over and
put your socks on, cry laughing emoji not talking about the people who really need it” “We are really becoming so lazy that someone
had to create a device to assist with socks I get that it may help someone who is either
elderly or unable to bend over but the people in the video are young” Can I respond to the fact that a couple of
these comments actually acknowledge that disabled people could use them but then they follow
that up with… “All the people in the ad are young”? I’m a person who could use assistance with
getting my socks on and off, both for grip reasons as well as back pain when bending over, also
bending over is a POTS trigger. I’m young and disabled, I could be in that
commercial. Disability doesn’t have a LOOK or an age. Also, when it comes to marketing specific
disability items like mobility aids or medical alert necklaces etc, it is ALWAYS elderly
actors and that reinforces the misconception that young disabled people don’t exist and
discourages young disabled buyers by reinforcing this stigma. So much so that responses like THIS happen. EZ Egg cracker “That is the dumbest thing I’ve ever seen. Don’t even bother trying to turn on the stove.” “Really people just do the work or get out
of the kitchen” “I am not that lazy.” “This is so silly! cracking an egg is well,
like the most basic thing to do in a kitchen if you need a ridiculous gadget to do it for
you probably you should go to Denny’s for your breakfast” WITH WHAT MONEY, LAURA?! Some people can’t crack eggs, I don’t know
what to tell you, you don’t have to be a dick about it. As I’ve mentioned before: mobility disabilities,
coordination disabilities, and as of very recently there was someone in my comments who said
this device would make cracking eggs accessible to them as someone who had difficulty with
the texture due to a sensory processing disorder. Metal Straws “Where are people going with their minds?” “How about just drinking from the cup?” “How about drinking out of a cup like a big
boy or girl?” “Why don’t just straight…” Whoah, what?
“Why don’t just drink straight from the cup?” “Why do you need a straw when I believe ALL Malaysians grew up drinking from the cup,
glass, or even bottle?” That’s a very peculiar boast… And um… Definitely not accurate, as disabled Malaysians
exist. “Ban all plastic items which are not biodegradable. Every country should ban it.” This is an example where outrage succeeded
in creating obstacles for disabled people and their needs. In my previous video, I got to talk a little bit about how the outrage over pre-cut & pre-peeled fruits and vegetables got discontinued, um, BECAUSE of said outrage. but don’t worry about us. We’ll survive on the dollar menu. Just kidding. That’s a weird joke. We– some of us cannot.
And also why would you want that for us? Disabilities that require straws for access
to drinking and eating include those with difficulty with grip, those with mobility
disabilities, those with digestive disabilities… Swallowing, disabilities where they must be
horizontal, particularly while very much needing to stay hydrated like with POTS. Bending straws
that can reach them where they lay are necessary. The original use for straws was for patients in hospitals,
specifically plastic bendable straws. The plastic could handle all temperatures, it withstood
chewing without harming the patients, patients who had spasms or seizures didn’t risk being
harmed by the material, those who were immunocompromised had a safe, sterile, one-time use straw. Although these were responses to metal straws,
I do have to state that plastic alternatives are simply not an option for everyone and legal bans against plastic straws among other plastic medical tools are dangerous for disabled people. Straws definitely deserve a bigger spotlight so
that’s actually going to be my next video. Subscribe and stay tuned for that. Obviously, I couldn’t mention every single
accessibility use for every single item so leave me a a comment and let me know what are some accessibility tools or aids that you can think of that people often neglect to consider! If you appreciate this video you can show
your support by becoming a Patreon patron and be sure to watch last week’s video. And I will see you eventually!

87 thoughts on “♿ Disabled Person Reads Comments Under “Lazy” Product Ads [CC]

  1. My 12 year old child with an autism diagnosis uses the sock slider because it helps them properly align their socks so they can put the socks on correctly. They also used plastic straws until recently (though they used a reusable type) due to the oral sensory input it provided (including being able to bite it). People with oral sensory issues often benefit from straws to help them so they don’t harm themselves (or others) through biting/chewing or other harming outlets to meet these needs.

  2. The comment with the socks and the people in the add being young… I get the comment soooo often. "Why are you wearing old peoples tights" or "You are to young to have this". Because a lot of people believe that only old people need medical compression tights when people like me need them to be able to walk without pain.

  3. Great video! I use a face mask with a DACC chemical / particle filter to help protect me from VOCs. While not a 'lazy' tool per se, it's something that interferes with facial recognition software (Social Services ID cards, locking technology, etc.) and creates issues when trying to access money (ever try walking into a bank with a face mask?). A disability that's frequently overlooked and ignored: breathing vs. the use of fragrances and scented products. Reactive Airways Dysfunction Syndrome (J68.3) is an acute hypersensitivity and respiratory response to chemical fumes & vapors.

  4. I called out people out in, ' the vegan of New York ' Facebook group for their attitude about their anti cut up produce. One of the people ignorantly said if a person couldn't cut up fruit she doubt if they are living alone. 🙄

  5. Such a wonderful video. Thank you so much for speaking up about this. I can’t drive so I get groceries delivered to my house and I’ve heard people call those services lazy before. It’s sad.

  6. Also people are so quick to dismiss “Adaptive” equipment as laziness or luxury but wheelchair/DME are assumed to grow on trees and all be the same. No, finding your best fit for equipment often takes years and reams of paperwork. There are choices, but not luxury. It’s do you want to function or not?

  7. Amazingly many of these “Lazy” designs and products are actually designed for people with disabilities. However, marketing teams have determined that products are more profitable when anyone in the public uses them and that people won’t buy a product if the person using it in the ad are disabled.

    TL;DR: many of these products are for disabled people, but marketers want more money and so market the item in a way that is harmful.

  8. I hate how walkers are only marketed towards elderly people. I'm a teenager who needs them to walk because constantly changing which leg needs to have the support of my cane is exhausting as well as my walker being able to be used as a chair

  9. I hate how this is clearly about not giving a crap about disabled people. Because inventions like dishwashers, washers and dryers, TV remotes, drive through car washes, etc. aren’t considered lazy or wasteful, and the only difference is that they’re tools that also help abled people. Once it’s something that is not of use to them, the rest of us can just be thrown under the bus.

  10. those bags of the little baby potatoes – they're more expensive but require no cutting or peeling. People are quick to suggest how much cheaper it would be to peel and chop regular potatoes. I have arthritis with muscle wasting and nerve damage in my arms and hands. Peeling and cutting potatoes is often beyond me or I don't want to risk injury. Same reason why I rely on baby carrots and frozen veggies. I also buy the frozen skinless boneless chicken because it requires less fine motor skills and I often cook them right from frozen.

  11. About metal straws… I'm not even disabled but metal straws are so useful to me because I have sensitive teeth so drinking from the cup can be very painful. Why can't people realize that the product wouldn't be useful in their own life and just move on without making a fuss?

  12. I find myself extremely fortunate that at the moment I am able to crack eggs myself etc, 4 weeks ago though I couldn't even sit up, my si joint subluxed and I was on my own with my 2 kids. I often get questions as like 'what have you done now?' Etc when I need to be on my crutches, even then the pain of walking with crutches on my hips, knees, shoulders etc makes me feel so sick, yet noone can see this. Not a lot of people know that I am also in the process of moving to an adapted house, all those grab rails people think are for old people. Yeah not just old people I'm only 31 and because of all the stigma I have battled on without asking for help for a hell of a long time. Something I know I shouldn't have done

  13. I actually bought the sock slider for my nephew who has cerebral palsy! It ended up being too big and clunky unfortunately lol.

  14. I didn't even know the egg cracker existed. I get a lot of anxiety if I'm attempting to do something like bake and it requires eggs. There's so much I could mess up. Believe it or not, it's not as simple or basic a task as that person commenting would have you believe :/ I wish I had known about this, it would've made my life so much easier. Also, it doesn't happen as often, but sometimes my hands feel stiff or shake randomly and I can't control it and then it can lead me to messing up whatever I'm doing.

  15. Am I the only one who grew up in a house that had portable bed tables we used when we were sick? It was super helpful when I was home sick from school for more than a few days and had to do homework. I'm boggled by people being boggled by bed tables. Then again, plenty of parents would force their kids to go to school no matter how sick they were; maybe that's where the "resting is for the lazy" attitude comes from. I really think that downplaying of ordinary illness contributes to ableism.

  16. I appreciate the commentary on the cost of simple walk, how it is free for an abled person to go for a walk, but for us it can cost thousands of dollars for that privilege. Even though I technically have a wheelchair, I still can;t propel it on my own and I don't get to have the privilege of going out for a walk when I feel like, choosing the route I want to go, and spending time alone in nature and in my community. Those things used to be important to me, and important parts of managing my mental health, but I can never have that opportunity again, until the day that I am granted adequate accessibility.

    (I feel like a fucking dog that has to whine at the door to be taken outside, bc if I don't ask, everyone will live their life and completely forget that I'm trapped in here. Even the ones that live in my house with me.)

  17. My entire life I got teased for spilling food and drinks on myself at literally every meal. Come to find out at the age of 38 that I have EDS, and that my clumsiness and predilection for spilling were SYMPTOMS due to poor proprioception. My hands literally don't know where my mouth is so I'm going to continue using straws THANK YOU, I don't want to ruin my clothes. I'm looking for good reusable alternatives but I haven't found the right one yet. I'd definitely poke my eye out with a metal straw!

  18. On the subject of accessibility tools in the kitchen, if I'm not mistaken the measuring cups and cooking tools with the large ergonomic black grips were originally developed with arthritis in mind, the oxo good grips products? Before that, grips on kitchenware kinda sucked, but a person with full hand mobility and no pain probably wasn't affected. I'm sure people thought it was pointless at the time to develop a different grip, not thinking about people who absolutely could not use the standard tools at the time. Now everyone uses those good grips tools! We need more of this; making the more accessible item the standard so the "normal" way of doing things is available to everyone.

  19. Hi! Something I never really understood – wouldn't paper straws be a good substitute for plastic straws?

  20. Another addition to the straw segment: people with periodontal disease or other diseases of the mouth. I remember my dad couldn’t eat solid food for months and couldn’t stand for anything, not even liquid, to touch his teeth.

  21. Plastic straws are a lifesaver for me. My teeth are often sensitive to cold so straws allow me to get water past the really painful areas. But, I also have a jaw condition that can make my jaw snap closed randomly so I can't use anything that will break or that will hurt me (like paper straw or metal straws).
    Also, there are things that cause the opposite of the "it's for the elderly" thing. And that's the "it's for children" thing. Because of the jaw issue, I can't use regular silverware so I use children's forks and spoons. I have to bring a set with me when I go to a restaurant. If I forget, then I spend a meal dealing with the pain of my jaw snapping closed on a metal utensil or hitting my teeth with the metal utensil because my jaw snapped shut just before I got the food into my mouth (which also means I drop food and get called messy). But, people think it's weird to see an adult using children's utensils/bringing their own. Also, there are many fruits and vegetables that I can't chew so I get pureed fruits and vegetables, but I get baby food brands often because they are cheaper despite being the same thing. And people think it's weird for an adult to eat "baby food". There are squeezable packets of pureed fruit and vegetables that are not marketed for babies, but those are usually more expensive. It's just the fruit(s)/vegetable(s) that it says on the label. There is literally no difference except for the marketing. So I just don't understand the stigma of an adult using things marketed toward kids/babies, especially when there are "adult" alternatives but they are more expensive.
    *Oops. That was kinda a rant. Sorry. Didn't realize how much I had to say on this subject. 🤷‍♂️

  22. I wish I had one of those bed desks that could be rolled over the bed. My current bed desk is really heavy and hard to use but I needed something and it was affordable and positionable.

  23. Great video! I'm looking forward to your next one.
    Also, I looked online, and I saw that bendy silicone reusable straws could be a possible, more green alternative for people who need soft straws that can bend. I may be wrong though, and I'm excited to here about what you have to say on the topic.

  24. Also (regarding the comment that the people in the ads don't look disabled, even beyond the point of "not all disabilities look like disabilities"):

    If the companies who make these products DID market them as items made for disabled people, then they'd have to get the products approved by the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) which can take years and jack up the price by orders of magnitude, and would mean that you'd have to get a doctor to sign off on it before you could buy, and hope that insurance would pay for it … All for a cleverly shaped piece of plastic that makes it possible to get dressed by yourself.

    Marketing these things to the "General Public" keeps them accessible, both in terms of just being able to find them and afford them. (Besides, the Disabled are the "general public").

  25. I use a straw because I have trigeminal neuralgia, a facial nerve disease that affects my lips on my affected side. Drinking straight from a glass causes me a lot of pain. With a straw, I can not only position the straw on my non-affected side (TN affects only one side of my face), but aim the liquid so that it doesn't touch the affected sides of my tongue or mouth. TN is known to the medical community as one of the worst pains a human can experience, and straws greatly improve my quality of life.

    As for other things that get overlooked, I wear a face mask/balaclava outdoors, even in the summer. Wind, cold, and rain are huge triggers for TN, and the masks help a lot! Laws that ban face coverings, which are always rooted in anti-Islam hatred (and maybe also surveillance), would be totally inaccessible to me. Like, I would literally never be able to leave my house.

  26. PWD are given less money but everything that we need costs more money than we get. Wheelchair companies charge over priced mobility aids when they are made on an assembly line and made like short order cook. The wheelchair shops over priced repairs and labor are MORE when you use INSURANCE vs Paying Out Of Pocket?These Mobility Aids are necessary and on top of it when you need to see your doctor you have to keep trying to prove you need the services that your doctor are trying to provide to you. Always wondering if your insurance will pay for your medications etc is very hard. I personally believe that healthcare is and should be considered as a RIGHT! For example I had a Laparoscopic Nissen done and I have to use a straw because if I drink anything without one it will hurt the area where it was done. The other part of what you said about most people with disabilities can't leave their homes and these people keep saying that they are lazy? I believe in fighting for the proper forms of mobility aids so people can get out and enjoy the world they live in and at the same time someone who can't leave their room would love to have that ability to do so.When we say we want to be treated like anyone else that doesn't mean we don't need Accessibility and Mobility Aids to enjoy the same things others without Disabilities can enjoy at EASE? I as well believe that we as PWD People With Disabilities have to Work HARDER to do what people without Disabilities can do at EASE. We get paid less and everything we do costs MORE. There are people who have disabilities but because someone goes to the doctor and the doctor can't see anything some doctors will look at your symptoms and because they can't see what the text book say's they will not diagnose you and they will just tell you it is in your head. This is why I like the hash tag #DisabledLivesMatter! No we don't want people to feel sorry for us but we don't want to be denied oppertunities and this means when we can do something on our own we don't want someone to take over but when we need help we don't want people to tell us that we need to work harder and do more for our selves. I personally have had people tell me that I am lucky that I get what I get and they act like it is hurting them that their taxes go to keeping us alive. Most likely it is someone who is lazy that will say that we don't need these devices.
    Thank You for your videos.

  27. Can "With What Money, Laura?" be a t-shirt please? I would wear it as often as possible. Or you could even change it to Becky! That would be even funnier! I need this in my life. Omg, this was a great video. I'm always excited when I get a notification for your videos. I'm also so looking forward to your straw video, because that whole ableist mess has been making me so mad. Being disabled and caring about the environment are not mutually exclusive things! Also, like you said, so many qualities specifically in plastic straws are what make them accessible to people. I honestly had no idea they were originally for hospital patients, but that makes so much sense. In addition to that, there's an Italian restaurant near my house that has a flyer on their front window advertising to people not to use straws because of the sea turtle video that started this ridiculousness. It makes me so angry every time I see it, and I want to say something about it. Anyone have suggestions?

  28. I love how you said P O T S instead of POTS. Every single time I say POTS people think that I mean weed. It drives me crazy!

  29. It's one of my chores to clean the bathtub/shower in one of our bathrooms. I was supposed to use a sponge sized scrubbrush, but that got too hard for me to use. Luckily when I talked to my dad he got me one with a long handle, and I can do it now

  30. I sometimes need straws because cafes often use unwieldy cups and overfill them, so it's impossible for me to lift them without spilling. I'm privileged because my problem is easily solved by getting a to go cup or a travel mug but I don't always have access to those.

  31. As someone who was born disabled it will never cease to infuriate me that people assume all disabled people are old. "you're too young to need that cane" "you're too young to need that wheelchair" "you're too young to be in all that pain" I was born this way but…ok sure. Of course people can also become disabled AT ANY AGE.

    Wonderful video!

  32. I don't even have a "known" reason I can't crack eggs… I just… can't for some reason without there being way too much shell. I'd love an egg cracker machine!

  33. I suddenly became disabled after a long stay in the hospital due to a perforated colon from random crohns complications after going to the hospital for another reasons :/ having a resting heart rate at dangerously high levels (above 130 bpm) made doin shit fuckin hard for a while, and being locked to a bed for a month did a huge fuckin number on my legs and body. I was 18 and became disabled (19 now) so yeah, young disabled people exist. I was on the geriatric floor with people in their 80s and it shocked everyone – some of this shit coulda been real useful for me :

    edit: about the straw part. I am immunocompromised! I never even thought about the sterile plastic stuff – I've just always used them. That's such a good point, thank you

  34. Clearly people commenting rude things didn't heave great parents. I can't imagine growing up with parents who never taught you to shut your mouth and ignore something you think is silly. Just because you don't understand why something exist doesn't mean you need to ridicule it.

  35. 1:59 I use a table that works like that. It doesn't have the tilting mechanism we see here, but it still looks like what I use.

    The lack of logical thinking ability that some people use(!)…or is it a lack of consideration?

  36. I think a big one that people don't think about is services like doordash, uber eats, or even grocery delivery services. There are times I'm in too much pain to get up and go to the store. There are times when I'm in so much pain I can't even deal with cooking. Am I supposed to just starve? Services like this provide me with a way to get some form of sustenance, even on my worst flare days.

  37. When I take the elevator one level at my uni and people say it’s lazy and why bother and how it’s just inconveniencing them from getting to their higher levels faster. Their ignorance hurts my feelings and pressures me to take the stairs when I shouldn’t

  38. The electric shopping cart at the grocery stores. I get so many dirty looks when I use one, I just don't even bother, even on really high pain days. I'd rather skip grocery shopping than deal with people.

  39. The spaghetti twirling fork is a product that is called "lazy." It looks great for people with arthritis.

  40. I have Dyspraxcia quite badly so will likely need pre-cut food if and when I move out. I have found people get irritable about some of my assistance needs, because of the Dyspraxcia I can't do shoelaces and was once told by somebody who I was in college with "why don't you just try"

  41. Anyone else out there with EDS always using their opposite big toe to take their socks off? 😂 or just me?

  42. Fucking ageist ablists!
    And bloody hand neuropathy on the inside of fluffy socks gives me heeby jeebies, but also pressure sensitivity fucks up the ol' egg cracking that tool was awesome… And removing shell is a nightmare for anyone!

  43. Mandolin/vegetable slicers, pre-made salads, audiobooks, pre-sliced/grated cheese.

    A more expensive one is the need for an exercise machine instead of a gym membership/exercising outdoors.

  44. Ok. I’m back to say that I just learned Canada (where I live) plans to ban single use plastic straws by 2021. I’m pissed. Please do a video all about straws and ableism. That would be great.

  45. @5:30 : One issue with many ads about "products for disabled people" is that, whether actors are young or old, they don't look disabled. You have said that many disabled people don't "look disabled", but they don't look like athletes either. That's a general issue with ads: they advertise diets using actors who have less than 0,5 kg to lose, wheelchairs using actors that have appeared in a commercial for running shoes 30 seconds ago, etc. So for people who don't know the issues, it reinforces the "'laziness" stereotype. The day the start showing real people on camera (yes, including overweight and/or disabled people), the stigma will disappear.

  46. Oh I LOVVVVVVEEE THIS VIDEO!!!! You are usually so calm, cool, and laid back (no pun intended) in your vids…and I LOVE your emotion and pissed-off-ness in this. Because SERIOUSLY!!!! (Bit of a rant ahead, sorry!) Yes, the fat phobes royally piss me off, along with the rest of them. It always makes me angry that the people who can afford things like dishwashers are usually the ones who could easily get along without them. I know SEVERAL abled households that have dishwashers and only use them after a party. They’re the ones who can afford all the alternative medical treatments too (acupuncture, massage, reiki, etc etc). Those of us who could REALLY use those things to enable us to function and improve our lives…we just can’t afford them. It’s ridiculous!

  47. The metal straws is even worse because a lot of comments on videos of people using straws are about how terrible they are for the environment. Disabled people need straws.

  48. YES STRAWS!!! I was just thinking about this yesterday while visiting my parents, as I sipped water through a bendy straw while laying on their floor.

    I won't apologize for straws but I feel weirdly guilty about buying the "lazy" precooked or precut food at the grocery store. I love to cook, but at the moment I'm going through a rough patch where I can only safely stand for around 10 minutes, and having some of the prep done for me means that I can make much more complicated and balanced dishes.

  49. That's why people need to be taught about disability in school. Had I never worked with disabled people as well as having chronic pain myself, I'd still be ignorant about all of this and would've reacted just like some of these people in the video. I now know that not all wheelchair users are incapable of getting up, I now know that drinking from a straw is not just a fun thing to do but something that makes drinking accessible, I now know that disability knows no age, etc. But I wasn't truly aware of it before.

  50. As far as the straws go, even if you don’t have a disability, but have very sensitive teeth 🦷, drinking cold things without a straw can be extremely painful!

  51. I just saw today Canada is thinking of implementing a ban on all single use plastics, which would effect things like plastic cutlery (which I use because of my sensory issues), plastic bags which I also use because even when my hands are numb I can hold onto the handles. Baggers overload the reusables most of the time or the paper alternatives have no handles and are also overfilled. But this would also cut into sanitary plastics, juice boxes or pouches with straws which I carry around for my husbands low blood sugars.

  52. bless you. as someone else who is young and disabled hearing what you have to say is really meaningful for more than one reason and it's nice to know i'm not the only one ♡

  53. Headphones/earbuds/ear plugs/ear defenders/sunglasses in places where it's not "socially appropriate" to use them. I'm autistic and once I started using these vital accessibility aids whenever I had to go shopping or be in crowded public spaces my anxiety plummeted. The amount of stress, confusion, distractedness, and overall horribleness things like flourescent lights, store radios, and simple background noise cause is unbearable. I sometimes get poor treatment from cashiers or judgemental looks, esp if someone is trying to talk to me and realizes I can't hear them but I don't remove my ear buds/defenders to be able to hear. They think I'm just being an asshole and don't understand that I'm not wearing that stuff to be "cool" or on a whim, it's about protecting my health, wellbeing, and capacity to give my energy to other parts of my life. Sidenote: it's baffling that all stores don't have clear/workable policies in place to communicate with customers who can't hear or speak. Like I'm a hearing person who doesn't read as visibly disabled, but my experiences have also left me wondering wtf they do if they get a D/deaf customer.

    Online shopping (grocery deliver in particular but also sites like Amazon): in addition to all the sensory battery stuff I mentioned above, a few other reasons this matters so much:
    1) Part of my being autistic is that I need more "recharge time" after social or sensory stimulating events – shopping is both really draining and is something I'd have to do in my free time that I could otherwise spend recharging. This means it severely impacts my ability to work, go to school, maintain friend/family relationships/etc. By having stuff delivered to my door I can have the things I need AND do other important things.

    2) Executive dysfunction: making a shopping list, remembering to bring it with you, making sure you have everything you need, navigating around the entire store (while fully processing what every item that crosses your field of vision is bc sensory processing differences), getting checked out, and driving to and from the store is an ENORMOUS amount of mental tasks. Without grocery delivery I'd have to do all of that just to get raw ingredients into my house, then I still have to do more work to actually prepare food. And the longer I go without doing it, the less mental energy I have bc my nutrition starts to get worse and worse, then I get anxious and depressed bc I feel like I can never have good/filling food, which makes it even harder to go shopping.
    3) Social anxiety: the grocery store I go to does have self-checkout, but a) not every store does, b) that doesn't rule out the possibility of any random person deciding to talk at you, and c) they turn it off several hours before the store closes so if you can't go shopping at peak hours (bc your schedule doesn't allow it or like me crowds and noises make you anxious). I tagged this as "social anxiety," but it could also apply to ppl who for whatever reason struggle to communicate in specific settings (see headphone discussion above), or trans people who aren't reliably read as our true gender by strangers. Seriously, before I started being consistently read as male I could hardly stand to go grocery shopping for fear of being "ma'am"ed.

    4) Doesn't personally apply but I bet lack of access to transportation, not having the physical ability to easily manage retrieving and lugging your own groceries, parking lots not being treated well enough to be accessible in winter weather and more could all make grocery shopping really difficult or impossible without online delivery.

  54. When you spoke about all the ads showing old people, I felt that. I went looking to buy a new cane online the other day and a company with really vice printed canes had a new campaign out but I felt super discouraged because all of the people in the ads were seniors. On top of the fact that people in life are generally judgemental it makes it even worse. Why is it normal for abled people to think that young people can't have disabilities?!

  55. honestly, i spent a weird amount of time on fb replying to comments like the ones addressed in the video. gonna have to start including links to this video in them, so people can maybe watch & learn something new.

    also, "with what money, laura?!" hfkajs 🤣

  56. Another one for your list of straw users 🙂 Some blind folks. For me as a functionally blind, Autistic person, my personal go to is reusable silicone straws, because I have sensory issues with plastic and metal (but others could just as easily have sensory issues with all reusable straws but not the plastic disposable kind.)
    Keeping a glass level and drinking from it without a straw is normal for many blind people, but really tricky for others, I don't find it too bad, but a straw can be nice. The main thing I use straws for is cups with lids. I knock over my glass around the house multiple times a week, with a cup with a lid and a small hole for a straw I can keep the mess to a minimum. It means I can stay hydrated withlout sharing it with the floor. Especially since I have to lightly flavour my water with juice or cordial because of sensory issues meaning I gag on straight water.
    I love that you didn't blast other types of straw, too many people do with the 'straw debate'. Disposable plastic straws should absolutely be readily and legally available, but they aren't the best option for everyone, and the outrage people rightly feel at the banning of plasticv straws too often turns into outrage at all reusable or alternative straw tyopes. Variety in accessibility aids is good for everyone, the more potential options, the more likely you are to find something right for you.
    Thank you Annie, another beautiful vid

  57. love your videos maybe make one about ageism and doctors who think you are too young to have a disability or say you dont after you have had 3+ doctors say you do

  58. Thank you!! Awhile ago I was in my class and all my peers were saying technology makes people lazy and I said technology helps me as a blind person to do my chores and they dismissed me. Cancel ableism!

  59. I blame marketing. These useful products for individuals with disabilities, but the adds make it seem like it's only for lazy people because the marketing team failed.

  60. Okay, you have opened my mind. Now I realize that when I made fun of the snuggly, I was an ass hat. I never thought of it this way, thank you.

  61. Zebra, has Debra Voggs:- that's giving you a shout-out you made some very good points raising awareness good job keep up the good work God bless bye for now Ken .
    I am new to your community.
    . You will see us eventually really?

  62. “Wasteful” things that help me, with my specific chronic illnesses: flushable wipes, makeup removing wipes, alcohol wipes for my injections, disposable pads (using anything else is really hard for me, as someone who is trans & has dysphoria, and as someone with endometriosis and adenomyosis), food that’s frozen and in a plastic container (easy to make, doesn’t take a lot of energy like making meals from scratch do), disposable flatware and plates (during the times when I’m home alone, don’t have anyone to help me do the dishes, and my energy level won’t allow me to wash them), and my medications. Some zero-waste people don’t want to acknowledge the fact that many of us take medication that’s absolutely vital, and there’s nothing we can do about the plastic waste that comes from needing to re-fill our many medications, consistently. I also take supplements and over the counter medications that create waste. I wish it weren’t that way, though. Maybe eventually everything will be in biodegradable containers? I hope! Something that won’t affect what we actually need for day to day life. The zero-waste community needs to actually team up with more of us who are disabled, to learn about what life is like for us— and the many different, “wasteful” tools that help us live our lives

  63. Also, in regards to the straw thing, aren't there some people with developmental disabilities that can't drink straight from the cup?? I swear I saw someone on Twitter mention something along those lines.

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